
The Jacket
Folding laundry tonight
it donned on me.
One of the random revelations
I get in my day to day.
Not like I haven’t been doing
the laundry for the past five+ months.
Maybe I’ve even thought
it before.
But I realized it.
It hit me.
I’m not folding his clothes.
Mark’s clothes aren’t in the laundry pile.
There are still in the closet.
Along with all my stuff thrown about.
Sometimes as I reach in to
search for a shoe,
I will brush up against
Mark’s jacket
hanging in the closet.
It’s quite possibly the
softest material made.
Reminds me of him wearing it.
When my hands were cold
as they so often are
I’d like to wrap my arms around him
inside his jacket
and touch his back with my frozen fingers.
He would jerk away
belt out this
ridiculously contagious
high pitched laugh
and would maybe, just maybe
let me keep
them there to get warm.
July 3, 2009 at 1:45 am
Thanks for this one! I needed it! It reminded me of how wonderfuly warm husbands are. I don’t get to “need” his warmth much here but I know his heart is just what I need when mine is gone cold. Praying for you this evening!
July 3, 2009 at 5:48 am
Sweet sweet memories. <3
July 3, 2009 at 7:36 am
That jacket can still give you warmth and comfort. I would wear your dad’s shirts, jackets to feel comfort. I still wear your Grandma and Great-Grandma’s rings for comfort. It is amazing how the things that use to be taken for granted turn out to be the things you cherish most….
July 3, 2009 at 12:15 pm
Ironically, with most people it’s those items (clothes) that are the hardest things to finally pack up and get rid of when the healing is done. Eventually you will find that most of that you will let go, but I bet you keep the jacket.
Of all the things I have, I still have my brother’s clothes that he was wearing the night he was killed in the accident. Of course they are washed and put away, but I cannot bear to let them go. They remind me of him. His jeans with the holes in the knees, the shirt they cut off him at the morgue, his wallet and personal items in it, his baseball hat. They even still have that ’smell’ to them.
After he died John had let everyone rummage thru all of Mike’s belongings. People just took them as souvigners, and one by one they were all gone. Even his pictures. I have one photo left of him on the mantle. It’s very small, but I still have those clothes. And probably will until I die.
July 3, 2009 at 1:32 pm
I’m so glad you have this tangible memory, and decided to share it with us. For some reason, I was reminded of P.S. I Love You, when the girl moons around wearing her husband’s shirt and suspenders. Will you be saving it for Nolan?
July 3, 2009 at 3:04 pm
this is beautiful, angie… you help me to take time to think about these things now.
July 3, 2009 at 8:26 pm
Your blogs are so real. You remind people of how all the little things really matter. What a blessing it is to have our loved ones in our life and all the happiness they give us. You are a gift from God. Thank you so much for being so real.
I think and pray for you all the time and I just want to say thank you for being a light to so many in this difficult time.
July 3, 2009 at 8:36 pm
thanks for sharing your life so transparently. i still check this frequently to keep up with you and nolan. it’s always nice to see you at church. continuing to pray for you.
July 3, 2009 at 9:57 pm
Have you ever taken it out and wrapped yourself up in it?
Know that your family is always in my thoughts and prayers!
Psalms 9:9-10 The LORD also will be a refuge for the oppressed, a refuge in times of trouble. And they that know thy name will put their trust in thee: for thou, LORD, hast not forsaken them that seek thee.
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July 4, 2009 at 7:48 am
Angie,
I want you to know I think of you and pray for you and Nolan often. You are an amazing woman of God! Thank you so much for your honest sharing it is so beautiful.
July 5, 2009 at 6:44 am
Something that I have heard of people doing that I wish I had did when my Dad died is to take some of his favorite shirts, jackets, etc. and have someone make a quilt out of it. Maybe you could have one made for you & one for your son.
July 5, 2009 at 11:25 am
praying God will clothe u in warmth and love! xx
July 5, 2009 at 9:37 pm
How was your 4th?
Know that the Lord is always with you, wrapping His loving arms around you and holding on tight! Praying!
Psalms 18:2-6 The LORD is my rock, and my fortress, and my deliverer; my God, my strength, in whom I will trust; my buckler, and the horn of my salvation, and my high tower. I will call upon the LORD, who is worthy to be praised: so shall I be saved from mine enemies. The sorrows of death compassed me, and the floods of ungodly men made me afraid. The sorrows of hell compassed me about: the snares of death prevented me. In my distress I called upon the LORD, and cried unto my God: he heard my voice out of his temple, and my cry came before him, even into his ears.
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August 16, 2009 at 9:43 pm
I don’t know what to say except I know exactly what you mean about not seeing your husband’s clothes in the laundry. Although our loss is different, from what I’ve read so far, your grief journey sounds very familiar…we lost our little girl on June 19/09 to an undiagnosed brain tumor. What I wouldn’t give to see her little clothes scattered around my house once more…
May God continue to hold you and Nolan in His loving arms and guide you through each day.